Feeling emotionally triggered is useful…
…it helps to remind us we need to change to move forward in a different way to feel better.”
Why?
The biggest falsity is thinking that a negative emotion means there is a real problem.
Feelings prove nothing. They are based on our own skewed beliefs and perceptions. Hence, they are false.
Instead, use them simply as a signal to take responsibility of ourselves and how to move forward in a better way.
How?
Ask these questions before you react…
1) How can I view the situation, others, or myself in a more kind, productive and appropriate way?
2) Is what I am thinking based on fact, or am I guessing others’ negative intentions or the future?
3) What do I need to focus on from now that will help me move forward in a positive way and let go of the past?
4) How do I respond to other’s in order to achieve a win-win outcome?
5) What positive intention, however hidden it may seem, could be behind their behaviour?
6) Is there a story I’m unaware of that could be affecting the other person that I need to be mindful and empathetic about?
7) What misunderstanding could others be perceiving about me and what could I have misunderstood about them?
How does this help?
This helps us detach from the emotion and look for the win-win solution for a positive outcome, rather than reacting based on an imaginary mind read based on misunderstanding, leading to more problems.
